I woke this morning - early, around 4.30 am (as I do at the moons waning) and I couldn't go back to sleep. So, I grabbed my knee rug and went out to my little sitting room - where my fire was still burning and where my big snuggly chair lives. And as I do at this time of morning I got to thinking - and fretting of course - so I decided to post what has been bothering me
I need some honest opinions, constructive critiscm - not character assasination though xo ~ those who can access my blog are my friends so I feel that your opinions may help me do some more soul work. I am not asking so that I can get kudos or praise - I just need to work through this for my own sanity.
here ya go :
what is it about me that some people don't like ? I honestly, from the bottom of my heart ~ try to be nice to everyone - I don't feel that I come across short to people and most always I am very aware of what I write in my emails. However - just this past week something happened with a blogger who I thought was a friend - and for the life of me I cannot work out what - not going into details (and it was not ANY ONE who has access to this blog) but it has happened often over the years with various people and now I am begginning to think it may be me.
so ~ please if you have any thoughts on this, I would be very grateful. some may hurt but I can deal with that (I think) -
I know not everyone is going to like everyone else - the world is not like that, I know but I just wonder why people like me oneday and the next I am receiving 'narky' & sarcastic emails.
I know I am not a saint at all - god forbid! I do get angry sometimes and can be a down right - awful person but most times I think I am fairly easy going.
so what is it ???
19 comments:
I don't know why anyone would act that way! I think you are very nice and your entries are very thought provoking. You reflect inward on yourself very deeply. Maybe it makes people think about themselves and it scares them?
I've spent a lot of time reading your blog (this one not the other ones) and I haven't come across any posts where you are "snotty" to anyone.
Oh, I hope it wasn't me!
Robyn,
You come accross as a very caring person. You bare your soul for all to see.
I cant understand why people should be saccastic,everyone is different and people should recognise that.
Take care
Gill
Robyn, You are loved for who you are....I'm thinking some people just have issues with themselves and maybe aren't as honest as you are. On days they are having those issues it may be that they just don't know how to respond to your honesty....and it seems like they are snubbing you. On the other hand if they really are snubbing you....then who needs them? Lets face it there will always be some people who don't like us for some reason or another.... just keep being yourself and you won't go wrong. BTW I'm one of the ones that loves ya!
Robyn
I wouldn't worry what people think of you. After all this is a computer, and they only know what they "think they know" does that make sense?
I've found a lot of people won't come to my site because I openly talk about paganism and things that frighten some people. It is ingorance that others should be afraid of, not sweet people like yourself.
Hugs
Autumn
Robyn, reading this I know how the computer on one hand can be wonderful yet on the other hand it is restrictive, as said above some people have issues with themselved, they think the universe revolves around them and their thinking.
When issues niggle me I find I need "head time" a time to get right away from niggles....I do this on the back of the motorbike, so by the time I have been out in the great space out there my niggles are inperspective. As I gaze in awe at the wonderful scenery, chat with NICE people who don't care who I am, what I do, where I live, I find all fits into perspective!
Dxxx
ANYONE who gives you negativity is not a good friend and should not be given a split second of your thoughts. You are a sensitive and caring person who does get effected by negativity more than others. This is more of a reason than any for you to push this aside. Perhaps they will come back with an apology or perhaps not. If they are getting seriously nasty, then you should share this with us, so we can help you in some way. I personally do not tolerate bullies or any kind. Nobody deserves to be treated in a negative way, especially if they have done nothing wrong, and especially by another person who is not so perfect in the eyes of the universe. Robyn, this is not the first time and probably will not be the last time. Please try your best to block this negative energy and know that in my eyes you are the most wonderful friend I have ever had. You are sincere and honest, caring and loving, kind and considerate. Whoever this nasty person is.... they should be reminded of the universal rule of karma. They will get their 'just desserts' Robyn. Ignore them and step up. You are better than that.
xox
Robyn, you are the most honest person I have ever met. You do tell exactly how you feel and try to see how things can be put right. Sometimes things can't be put right and it is NOT YOUR FAULT. It can be the fault of the other person who has not the same level of honesty as you, and will lash out at you. There are people who could be jealous of the way you think about and deal with issues and want to hurt you, even if they are only doing it sub consciously, in return. Your honesty is to be applauded. To the people who have become weird about it to you I would say 'If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen'.
Robyn - you are an honest person. Caring etc...but....hionesty is probably your biggest downfall - and I mean that in a nice way!!!!
I love your openness and the way you comment and what you write about, but I guess some people cant handle honesty and open feelings and then thats when they get narky I think. JMHO...may be barking up the wrong tree here....so its probably more about them and their issues than yours.
I feel that way too sometimes, and often wonder if everyone out there hates me.... then I have a good day, so its a balance of them both..
You keep on going and if you do get those nasty comments then do what youre doing - open to blog to invited guests only.
I agree with all of the above comments. You are honest, perhaps too honest for some and they don't know how to deal with that. Usually it is because they have issues with themselves, and the things they 'attack' are actually based on their own fears within themselves. You are sensitive to this, and perhaps they don't like that you can see throught them?
I think people with sensitive souls like us can be target for people who are not. They enjoy wounding us and know we wear our heart's on our sleeves. This sounds more like an issue for them.
If I had to guess how you could possibly upset someone else, perhaps you are picking up and reflecting something they don't want to see?
I'm sorry to hear you have trouble with the waning moon, I guess you need her charged light to sleep?
All of the above Robyn. You don't hide and that can make some people very uncomfortable. On the one hand, a person is attracted to you and then when they get too close, they are repelled. I'm going through something like this right now and its so crushing that it will no doubt alter the friendship beyond recognition.
Hold your head high. You are an OK person. Hurtful it is, but it is something that cannot be understood. Believe me, I know.
Robyn,
I agree with some of the writers above in that I think you are a very sensitive person. I am very sensitive as well, although I think my skin is a little bit thicker now. I wrote in one of my posts that I love Christina Aguilera's song "Fighter" in which she thanks those nasty people for making her stronger.
A good friend of mine once said, "I was in my 30s before I realized not everyone liked me!" (She is very likable - no, lovable.)It took me a long time too to realize that not everyone was going to like me. But my thinking is, I don't care what people think about me except for the people I love, respect and admire.
From your blog I can see that you are very likable. I agree with Nicole about not abiding bullies. The president and vice president of my former company would lash out at me and it was so hurtful. I later realize that they were jealous (of me???) and insecure about themselves.
This has gotten way too long so I will end here.
Robyn you already know you are a kind and caring person. You also know that no matter how much you try you are not going to make everyone happy or everyone like you. Why waste energy fretting over the few who don't? You worry way too much over what they do or don't think of you when you could be enjoying the many many friends that love you just the way you are. You make their day when they know they have upset you. Don't give them the satisfaction, ignore them and get on with enjoy your true friends.
I guess the blog world is a lot like the real one, some people are just weird.
It is okay to not like people too, Robyn. I think you are so much like me, you try to see the good in everyone, so when you are being judged yourself you don't understand it.
Keep on being yourself, you are fine in my books.
Real friends, either in blog land or on dry land are hard to come by. You are lucky you have a bunch of friends online that matter to you. xoxo
There's nothing wrong with you; you're a good person, with your ups and downs, nothing abnormal there! As you said, not everyone can like us, and you could be the Virgin Mary come down to Earth and there would be people who wouldn't like her and be nasty to her. Once you understand this, you won't take it personally and it won't trouble you much.
The problem lies with the other person, it's their problem to deal with and they are very likely behaving the same way with other people, not just you.
Love you. xoxo
I have continued to think about this Robyn, could it be that people don't think you will fight back if they attack? That used to happen to me a lot and when I learned how to defend myself verbally I stopped being a target. I hope that helps.
It ain't you, Toots - it's Them who have the problem! I know what I'd be doing with their emails.. hit reply and type two words in HUGE letters - "F... Y.."
I adore your honesty and I am glad you open your blog again for the rest of us who love you!
Enjoy yourself and keep writing wisdom, please! I am looking forward to read about the croning of Miss R
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